I really struggled to find a post/blog to see what was needed to start my videos. Honestly speaking in 2013 I started using my IPad 2 to make my YouTube videos. The stress of ‘angling’ the front camera on the IPad 2 was a nightmare.
Listen ladies you might be heartbroken right now and all you want is for him to come back. You pray for it, you speak about it you dream about it. You ask yourself -When will he come back? When can we rekindle? Does he regret it? Especially if you are strong (even though right now you may not feel that you are not) , hardworking and loyal lady.
Sell all your stuff; you have a lot of stuff. Then you will have treasure and heaven! I had room for the lord when I could do it on my own terms.
If he is a GROWN boy then stop dealing with him. A GROWN boy doesn’t know how to treat or love a woman. I was with a grown boy – you know what it was beautiful in the beginning. I was thinking he was beautiful , sexy, fun and exciting. But guess what his WORDS WERE EMPTY – he didn’t follow through by actions.
Forget closure! Don’t let the person who is no longer with you control you! Do not worry about seeing what they are doing, or are they happy in their new relationship and if they still miss you – if they miss you they will call you – (careful that could be from boredom).
There is some people that simply with not be there for you when you need them – they don’t ring you randomly to see how you doing? So STOP thinking about they think – whether it is a relationship , friendship or family?
You might be struggling from a situation or moving on from a person in your life. Those memories ,they gave you happiness at one point. Stop trying to get over that person 24/7. Trying to unpin what went wrong with Understand what you are worth, focusing on your past will keep haunting you.
Focusing on trying to get over that person, will not let you get over them.
My friends may have told me I ignored them. I was so IN love with him, and blamed some things on the distance. But do not ignore Red Flags as it will bite you later – trust me.
Anxiety and Depression is real – it may not be spoken about. I never really understood until I felt it. I recently discovered both, as for my character I found it unusual. My friends and family would describe a strong individual and knows what she wants so when I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend (As you would have read in my recent blogs - why we broke up. He left me for someone else), the anxiety kicked in overthinking – I kept thinking is he with her? Was he staying at her house? It took a toll on me. The depression came in the WHY? Why did he leave me? What did I do wrong? Why did I feel so empty? He did so many things which were disrespectful why did I care so much about him? The abandonment, the unwanted feeling , the unloved feeling and the feeling of approval from him. It will take time ‘rejection is protection for something better’.
We all are facing silent struggles that only our heart knows about. I felt like I was in a boxing ring the thoughts of my ex which were going round and round. Your mind is constantly ambushed with thoughts and battles which you are trying to put away and find peace. I was trying to clinging on to anything to find peace in any shape or form. I tried praying, mediating, going out, going to the gym, talking about it and even going on dates. In my case nothing seemed to make it go away. I wanted to scream to make it go away! (That didn’t help either)
Just because you have your life together and a man cant take – don’t feel like you should lower your standards .
I have too many woman friends who are grinding daily, working out and working hard to make their dreams come true plus not relying on anyone. Eventually a male will come along and say ‘you have achieved so much – i never met a lady like you!’ which is nice warm fuzzy feeling, until he starts thinking a little later down the line.
Why should you settle for anything less and keep lowering your standards to fit the “norm”? My parents raised me as CHAMPION. I come from a British Asian background so the norm is to be married to an fellow Asian (of course – otherwise the society love to gossip) – What job does he do? Doctor, Dentist, Phamaraist, Accountant, banker? What if he does not fit this convention? Is he not right? Or will your parents be embarrassed to tell extended family. But what if he is boring as hell?
A relationship or friendship should not be stressful. It should help you grow if it doesn’t then cut it loose. If he wants to be with you, he will be with you no matter what!
Ladies, respect yourself please! See the signs, if he respects you he will be NOT texting girls you are uncomfortable with.
I know it is hard – but you will get through this!
‘You need to let go and move on’ – friends and family said this to me. But to be honest I was lost I didn’t know where to start; I didn’t know where to go. All I could think about was – if he said he was sorry it would bring my happiness back. Why was the apology so important from the one person who disrespected me and left me for someone else without a blink - a loose sorry would make the pain go away! NO! So why when I have a big wide world out there I want the one person that caused me so much pain and heartache? Was my ego just bruised – validation that he screwed up? Approval that i was better than her? What was it?
British Asian Female- working in the Finance industry plus a MUA - wanted to share the journey I have been through. Comment or email me!!