Why should you settle for anything less and keep lowering your standards to fit the “norm”? My parents raised me as CHAMPION. I come from a British Asian background so the norm is to be married to an fellow Asian (of course – otherwise the society love to gossip) – What job does he do? Doctor, Dentist, Phamaraist, Accountant, banker? What if he does not fit this convention? Is he not right? Or will your parents be embarrassed to tell extended family. But what if he is boring as hell?
There are too many rules in the community/society , but I believe some of these frameworks have saved us. For example, divorce is frown upon and cheating is not accepted. I know you are screaming at the screen right now saying ‘IT HAPPENS’ , yes I am sure it happens, but compared to other cultures it reduced as family/society pressure kicks in. Do not settle if it doesn’t feel right, just because he ticks the boxes for society.
If you NOT a timid Asian girl and you feel you do not fit in the typical box, it is FINE. I am so crazy TOO (which I love about myself) ,God willing I have my own business plus work in finance industry (STANDARD) as it “the” Asian thing to do. I have dated men boys that I shouldn’t have (BMW – for those who know what that is). I would consider myself as a pure rebel even though I love Garba and can speak Gujarati fluently. I do not do things conventionally; I am ambition, driven and outside the box however to be honest I am fine with that. I do not really care what other people think is right or wrong. I have realised I do what makes me happy, as long as i am not hurting anyone why does it matter if it doesn’t fit society? I need want someone fun, who will be as crazy and with fire in his belly!
However, in the beginning of a relationship potential is just potential – but you need to keep a close eye at his preparation or what plans he has – when he talks with passion. Like when he talks about his favorite football player – they know how long they been in the league, how many games he has won etc. Same should go for his passion, ambition and drive. Many woman feel they deserve less , or will settle for less - why? Your parents raised you as a strong , independent and educated woman!! Would you let your daughter date a half prepared man? You bring so much to the table why shouldn’t he?
For example if you want to play a pick up game at the local park then you don’t really need to be in shape or be training – there is nothing on the line it is for fun. But however, if he wants to play in the NBA then even the bench players needs to have a extensive resume to ensure they are prepared to ball on that level. As is it not for fun and millions are on the line.
A man that knows he needs to come prepared will come at the highest level , if not then he can go back to the park and play pickup. If he said she cheated because his ex was crazy – he is playing pick up ball. But if you meet him and he understands his mistakes in all areas of his life plus what he has learnt and is trying to do everything to make it right. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. Watch his actions!
Are you going to be the man comes prepared for or are you going to prepare him for another woman?
Ladies you are special, raise your vibrations to attract the right man. Let your guard down when needed but don’t sleep with someone or fall in love to quick – have distance but fun at the same time. If he makes you believe that you should sleep with him ¾ date, then you need to hold the cookie for longer. Once you sleep with them exchange of energies and emotional transfer which can blur your vision of being a boss! You can’t tell if he is the one – but can see if he is prepared!
Hope this helps
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British Asian Female- working in the Finance industry plus a MUA - wanted to share the journey I have been through. Comment or email me!!