Just because you have your life together and a man cant take – don’t feel like you should lower your standards .
I have too many woman friends who are grinding daily, working out and working hard to make their dreams come true plus not relying on anyone. Eventually a male will come along and say ‘you have achieved so much – i never met a lady like you!’ which is nice warm fuzzy feeling, until he starts thinking a little later down the line.
“I cannot be with you because you seem you do not need me, you have so much more than me .”! Let me tell you that is his insecurities, do not feel guilty. Do not settle because of age, loniness or settling for less.
I may not need you financially but i need you emotionally darling!
Know your Self Worth ladies – great perspective from Derrick Jaxn
TRY THIS - Say you are worth a million pounds – you decide to give it to someone who is less fortunate and they say ‘you know what I am just not ready for a million pounds RIGHT now!’. What are you going to do? Would you really cry , beg or force them to take it? Of course you wouldn’t – more like you would say “see you later!”. Therefore why are you doing it to your self worth? YOU are worth so much more than a million pounds so keep it safe or give to someone who passed all those questions in ‘who wants to be a millionaire’! Remember who you are!
This happened to me at the age of 26. I bought a property, have my own car and have enough savings to go on nice trips and have nice things. I work hard for those things with God blessing, I have my own business and work full time, practically work 7 days a week in the summer which i had to make some sacrifices eg. Going out on Friday and Saturdays.
My partner in 2016 was like ‘wow , you independent , mature and have your life together’, I said ‘ yes now I want to someone to build my empire with’ so he said ‘ i can’t wait till the day I marry you – I love you so much. You are so different!’. So i was thinking this guy really gets me. I really like this boy (there was my mistake he was a BOY not a MAN) he understands me, he works hard too. But my mistake – ALL TALK NO ACTION. He wanted to open a business – but was there any preparation noooo!
So after 6 months seeing each – we were planning to travel the world together, as we were long distance. So I am trying to help him understanding you need to save and I started planning and booking this and that (RED FLAG – which he didn’t help with). I have been very blessed , I have travelled many countries so I was really going because it would give him a chance to see the other side of the world and for us to spend time together – to see if we would work long term. So we both quit our jobs (he worked in Car Sales and I worked in the Banking world). Fast forward as you may have heard the story in my other blogs of what went from a dream trip to my worst nightmare.
He said I cannot be with you any more – you have your life sorted and I don’t own anything. Being a coward he was instead of stepping up and staying with a strong woman, he took the easy route out and went back to his ex who was needy (she rang him everyday while we on this trip that lasted 5 weeks?) – those girls have no self respect. He said ‘ i want to marry you in a few years time when i have my life sorted out !’. No offence I am not waiting around for no one who wouldn’t want to fight for us now and step up now!!
So to all the ladies out there that can buy their own drinks and pay their own bills, do not lower your standards. A man that will elevate you high and push you harder is out there do not waste time on waste boys! When you come across someone like this - then watch ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. He might say he wants to do this business or this hustle – where is the proof in the pudding? No excuses! If he walks away from everything you bring to the table – Let him! Period. DO YOU: Elevate yourself
Hope this helps
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British Asian Female- working in the Finance industry plus a MUA - wanted to share the journey I have been through. Comment or email me!!