1. It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Breakup Buddy
This was well written - a guide which can help as soon as you have come out of a relationship. It has so many points and tips to put things in perspective and hopefully help you move from the pain and suffering. Also you are allowed to grieve it's part of the process. You have lost a part of your life you invested so much time and energy in. So cry it out, don't eat junk (no serious why add weight on when you need to look fabulous). You are amazing woman his loss that how i see it. You need to have that attitude and it will help you get through the mess. Especially when everything looks like a blur stuff will settle down and you will realize that its not bad. No contact is the best even though it is hard - have a calendar and tick off each day. Makes you feel a sense of satisfaction - makes him wonder what you are doing (even if you are on the couch crying your eyes out).
"Suffering is a choice" - this got me through the tough times.
Here are some books which helped me in a difficult time in my life.
2. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action
This was highly recommended from a dear friend. I completely agree with the concepts. If you are feeling lost and have failed at one part of your life - skip to the chapter "whole life". This helped me when I came out of a relationship along being unemployed! Everything wasn't doomed. You have so many other things going for you - your ex is not the be end and all. But i believe one concept truly whatever you do give 100% whether it is a conversation with a friend or a temp job!
There are so many reviews on this book- did it work for me? Yes it did. I wrote down what I wanted everyday or looked at the list. Then "saw it, believed it and actioned it" I believe that when you write it down and remind yourself daily it makes you focus on those things. Example when you start cycling you notice more cyclists - they were always there its only because you started doing it. You are more aware of those things.
4.The Bible (or whatever you may believe in)
This is big one for me - I personally haven't read the bible. But I listen to a lot of preaching which refers to the bible on YouTube . TD Jakes and Joel Osteen are great preachers, the way they explains the teaching from the Lord is very practical in our day to day life. Crazy something written so long ago is still practical in our everyday. Biggest lesson i learnt was 'Let go and trust the process'.
Empty out the Negative - Joel Osteen
5. Why Men Love Bitches (my fav)
Bitch - babe in total control of herself. Before you guys get any ideas.
This is a book I will give ,my daughters and nieces when they turn 16 in fact. I believe this book made me see myself in a different light. I was always strong and independent which i thought i was, but when it came to men, I use to give in too early, i used to give my whole self too early. Actions speak louder than words - watch what they do before you do everything for them. I am a British Asian so in our culture it is taught that woman are born to serve their husbands *rolling eyes*. So i guess i know why i want to do everything, my mum does everything for my dad.
6. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man
This book was a real eye opener , as it let me answer some questions that i had on 'why men do certain things?'. This helped with my break up in fact. My ex said i was strong and independent always complimented on what I achieve. Do not get me wrong I have worked very hard to achieve what I have. But the thing he fell in love with me, is the same excuse he fell out of love with me too. In his eyes I was too successful and he didn't have those things that I had. So he left me for a woman (girl i would say) that he could provide for (that was needy), as he didn't feel he could provide for me. But the thing is I did need hi - emotional , to be y partner in crime and to help me develop. But i didn't need him financially. In my opinion - i am not going to apologies for my achievements. I want to be with a man who I can grow with, money doesn't make me happy - potential, funny and humble in someone makes me fall in love.
7. How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life
I have a whole blog on this book - this was a very inspiring book for me. This book gave a kick up my arse a little. This book is the reason i am blogging and gave me motivation to become more successful. After my breakup i was depressed , unemployed and unhappy. I feel this book helped me regain my ambition and purpose back. Thank you Lilly Singh.
8. I Can Mend Your Broken Heart
I read this book about 5 years ago when i was first heart broken, but there was techniques in the book which really helped me pick myself up. I borrowed the book to someone and they never returned it. It was a great book i remember and helped me that the difficult time.
' Always dress like you are going to see your ex' - from the book. This is very true - if you look good you feel good which will help you send positive vibes to the universe.
9. Strong Woman: The Truth About Getting To The Top
This is about a amazing woman who was determined to climb to the top. This is great for women who want to make a different in their life and career,
Finally Number 10 . How to Win Friends and Influence People
This book has taught me a listen and ask people about themselves, People love talking about themselves.
Please let me know your thought and comments below.
British Asian Female- working in the Finance industry plus a MUA - wanted to share the journey I have been through. Comment or email me!!